a birth story for the books. my crazy delivery!

usually when you know someone who has kids you ask about how the baby is but what most people really want to know about is the birth story. So Grab a cup of coffee, tea or a shot and lets jump right into mine!

It was July 7, 2021 when i did the craziest Thing I have ever done in my life, i gave birth to a beautiful 7 lb 21 inch baby girl that i named Sophia Milan. My little bundle of joy came as a total shock to the world. Because not even 12 hours prior to her delivery i had a very well know OBGYN tell me i was only experiencing Braxston hicks and that I wasn’t even a whole Centimeter Dilated. I knew he was wrong.

Not too sure if it was the crazy nesting instinct that gave it away or the feeling in my heart telling me that she was coming, and fast. Anyway, who was i right? Definitely not a well know Physician with years of schooling under my belt. That day i drove my self home from my appointment desperately trying to ease my nerves. My younger sister had actually given birth that day to a beautiful little girl of her own.

i Remember driving the 55 minutes home thinking how crazy it would be if i too delivered just hours away from her. but how likely is that , right?! Definitely not as likely or crazy as it was that not just me and her were expecting but my older sister too! She had her son 3 months prior at this time but we were all pretty far along at the same time.

I got home, unloaded the huge duffle Bag from the truck of my beat down 2005 honda civic Coupe (not ideal for a new mom but hey i worked with it). walking no more than a few steps before i stopped dead in my tracks. Turned around and placed my hospital bag right back into the trunk i had just spent my last breath lifting it from. I thought about it at that moment “just in case.” if Only i knew then how right i was then maybe i would have packed the snack bag too.

That day flew by so fast i barely even Remember it Honestly. I spent most of it cleaning, organizing, hyperventilating, you name it. i had pretty much did all i neede to in just a few hours. so i decided to walk my collie Nala around the block of my tiny one bedroom apartment so many times my neighbors probably thought i was lost somehow. I was thinking how the movement and gravity of walking around would work its magic on my slowly Dilated cervix so i kept on going.

Man i was so tired. Tired of the swollen feet, the woddle, the feeling of gasping for air like i had just ran a marathon. We finally made our way home when i started to feel that pressure again. The small pinch in my lower back and rib cage. I just knew it. i knew she was ready to meet the world. Can’t tell you how but i did, call it mothers intuition or my ancestors warning but what ever it was i just knew she was coming.

That day flew by so fast and before i knew it, it was time for bed and i was in bed desperately rocking my self back and forth trying to ease my mind so i could fall asleep. I think that i probably slept no more than two hours when i was Jolted back to reality by what i can only describe as the shooting pain of a lightning bolt.

getting out of bed must have did something right Because not to far after the pain started, it went away. I felt so disappointed. but also kind of relieved. Honestly, i wasn’t really accepting the fact that i was getting ready to push a tiny human from my you know what. i mean, i knew it was going to happen eventually. but also being in that moment right before it does is surreal and intense.

I walked around my living room in those early hours of the day. the moon light shining down on me threw my window panels. my dog Nala sitting on my couch staring at me like i was going crazy for not sitting and resting. So, i decided Called my baby sis and she, Of course, told me There’s no reason to worry about getting sent home if it was in fact pre-labor pains and that i should make my way to the hospital anyway. but i was so Hardheaded back then (motherhood humbled m) and ignored every sign my body showed of labor for about a whole hour.

i stayed at home practicing my breathing moving my hips and pacing around instead. at one point i even felt silly. Because just like my OB said I’m not even 1 cm dilated and shes Definitely coming during the “weekend”. I should Have listened to my sissy and my instinct because not even half a hour later my mucus plug fell out. and yes i am aware this can happen on its own during brackston hicks and even way before active labor but this time something felt different some How, Like Seeing it gave me the Reassurance that i was due at any moment and i wasn’t “going crazy”.

At that time, my boyfriend and i just had just 1 car. My beat up little honda. He’s a plumber and has a work truck and it just Didn’t make any sense to have a second car. like seriously, how were we going to manage a new car with a newborn. Especially given that my Salary at that moment Wasn’t so great. i was barely making ends meet. Come to think of it i don’t think i would have been so ready for Her arrival if it wasn’t for that stimulus check (the only thing good from those Covid days).

When i tell you that i legit drove Myself 45 Minutes on 270 then 495 Highway going more than 80 miles an hour, i am not joking. i was FLYING. The pain at that point was so INTENSE. i remember needing a distraction and blasting alicia Keys “No One” on max volume hitting the gas pedal every time she sang the hook. Super dangerous now that i think About it and Frankly, i am kind Surprised a cop Didn’t stop me blazing down the road like that. I got lucky for sure. When i made it to the hospital, just like Every time i go when I’m sick, the pain just stopped and i felt totally fine. better even!

They Thought I was Acting!

The pressure Subsided and the excitement Definitely took over. Hauling 2 big bags on each shoulder i was so pumped Waddling my way to Labor and Delivery. I Remember the face of the first two nurse who helped me check in still till this day. Think of the face someone gets when they know damn well your lying, but this time they were wrong. I called my doctor on the way there and though he tried his best to convince me i was just thinking into it too much, he knew i was not going to take no for an answer. and i knew whether or not he was going to meet me i was going to have this baby.

I walked into a small triage room where the nurse helped me undress and strapped all kinds of monitors on me. She told me that it Didn’t seem i was actively contracting so she would proceed to check my cervix. I laid down, trying to breath as calmly as possible when i felt her push one hand down on my cervix and place another on my pelvis. And thats the moment when it all became WAY to real. She looked up at me, face pale as a ghost, Almost in complete disbelief and said the words every new mom panics about.. “your having this baby today, your cervix is at 8.5 Centimeters Dilated.”

Man i was so shock about the words that had just came out of her mouth. I Didn’t know what to think. i was so Scared like holy crap this is about to go down and also a little bit of “BOOYAH! I told you so!” but then it hit me “holy crap i drove Myself here! My Boyfriend is at home passed out with absolutely no idea that i left and i have the only car!” LOL. the nurse and i panicked for about 5 second when she grabbed my phone and told me to call him right away. but Of course, no answer. duh, he sleeps like a bear hibernating threw winter.

So, i called someone i knew would answer. his mom, lol. she was top notch! i mean this woman probably hoped out of bed fully dressed! she quickly woke up his dad and before i knew it she was right by my side waiting for the guys to get there. The rest of that night kind of felt like a blur to me now. i remember i was put on Pitocin since half my cervix was stuck at 9 cm and hadn’t fully dilated yet. my contractions came like waves, at and at one point were 5 seconds apart. I’m pretty sure my Screams scared half the floor to death because i Vaguely Remember my nurse crying with me.

SHE WAS HERE! <3

She had me sign the papers i needed to in case something were to happen and i know she was so worried about me and the babys’ safety. i actually ended up delivering my daughter so fast i Couldn’t Believe that was what all the pain had built up to. less than 4 Minutes and two pushes in and she was here.

i had a natural delivery since i was already too far dilated to safely try for an epidural, no way was i sitting still. Shoot, they’d have to knock me tf out if they tried. because dude, those contractions were no joke. when i actually gave Birth, i passed out from the pain that i Didn’t even feel the doctor stitching me up.

I had only a small tear and just needed two stitches but supposedly i was bleed like crazy. my boyfriend made it right on time, Right when they had just finished administrating the Pitocin before i felt like i was going to die. he actually witnessed all the pain and yells. i Remember his face like it was yesterday, he looked so scared and pale. i bet he probably Almost passed out too because when i woke up baby girl was actually with the night nurses. yup thats right! i gave birth at 10am and woke up with the sun going down.

they were able to help him nurse baby while i slept. kind cool actually but also like Super weird if you can picture it lol. the nurses pushed my to start breast feeding right away. that was hard. this was all so new to me and it was so hard getting adjusted to now feeling so big, getting small amounts of sleep in between feedings and even getting up to use the restroom.

My recovery wasn’t so bad though, i was actually walking normal by the next evening. overall my experience was pretty ok but man that delivery was one for the books. my sister was down the hall and i actually had nurses come in and talk to me about everything that had went down that morning because they were so shocked about how my crazy ass delivery was. not even 12 hours prior i was at my OBs office being told it was “nothing” and i should just relax.

SO glad i didn’t listen to him because man would i have been screwed if i had waited any longer. he actually was one of the provider to check on me and i made sure he knew i was unamused. Goes to show that you really do know your body best and should always follow your gut instinct when you Know something isn’t right. imagine if i Hadn’t gotten to the hospital when i did! i was due to clock in at my job at 6 am and i gave birth at 10am. oh man was i lucky.

now my little gir is 3 and thriving and thinking back to my pregnancy the delivery and all the memories that came after i wouldn’t have changed a thing. all that pain, the agony, it was all worth it in the end. well, obviously it must not have been that bad or maybe it was the fact that a womens body has massive memory loss after delivery because i swore up and down i was NOT doing that again but there i was, finding myself expecting my second baby girl not even 4 months later LOL, but that’s another story for a different day. and an even crazier one at that !

thank you for reading my wild birth story. and if your a mom with a crazy birth story comment it down below! Let’s laugh and cry about it together!

XO, Analynn